30 Days of Kink

Ok, so a few of my friends and loved ones have started up this thing called "30 Days of Kink" where they post something every day for 30 days about kink. I've decided I'm going to play along and do it as well. Except I'm going to post as I can. So, for tonight, you get 15 days because with the way my schedule has been recently and will be for a while, I don't know when I'll get to post again.

Moving along with the topic, I present to you days 1-15 of 30 Days of Kink.


Day 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.

All parts of BDSM interest me. I want to explore and learn about everything and there are very few things I absolutely refuse to do. I’m a sub with switch leanings. What this means is that I am mostly submissive, but, given certain situations/people, I will gladly take the dominant role. Those situations and people, however, are far and few between.  I love the times when I can find freedom within the bonds. I also love having those times when my choices are my own.

Day 2: List your kinks.

Really? If I were to do that, I’d fill up entirely too much page space. What I will do though, is to list those things that excite me the most. The things that get me going like nothing else does.

Hair pulling- Not so much just the pulling of the hair, but grabbing the hair at the back of the neck, going under the hair and grabbing from there with just the right amount of tension, immediately puts me into sub mode. But of course only when done by the right person(s).

Bondage- Being bound presents a feeling of helplessness. It helps me to let go and let that other person be in charge. Helps me to be controlled. And it has to be done well. It can’t just be some piece of Velcro thrown together crap that will release at the slightest tug. I want to know that I can’t get away.

Blindfolds- Another sense of lost control. Plus it keeps the mystery of what’s happening. I can’t just open my eyes and see what is about to happen. I have to rely on my ears and my sense of touch. And hearing doesn’t always tell you everything.

Biting- Mmmmm. Yummy when done right and in the right spot.

Energy play- When this is done by itself, it’s a wonderful thing. When it’s added with other play, it can take it to a whole new level.

Day 3: How did you discover you were kinky?

I don’t know that there was ever a true discovery. It’s just always been part of who I am.

Day 4: Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks?

Well, let’s see… Discovering my grandfather’s Hustler magazine would be the first. Discovering my dad’s Playboy mags would be the second. And then later on, my discovery of the Beauty trilogy. Even then I knew that a good bit of the stuff in the books was impossible. However; it made for H.A.W.T. fantasies when all by my lonesome in my bed. ;)

Day 5: What was your first kinky sexual experience? If you haven’t had one yet, talk about what you hope to have happen.

My first kinky sexual experience was with someone who opened my eyes to the joy that sex can be. The exact details are rather fuzzy at this point, but suffice it to say that it only stirred my hunger to discover more. He was the first man I gave a kinky gift to as well. (It was one of those silly little feather/mask/fake flogger gift sets like the ones you can get at Spencer’s. Which I think is exactly where I got it from…)

Day 6: Describe your weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy.

I guess my weirdest/most interesting sexual fantasy would involve an invisible vampire and being fucked while bitten and transformed into a slave for the vampire’s pleasure. Describing it any further would require me to turn it into a story. Maybe I’ll do that sometime. *smiles and winks*

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

My favorite toy is one LovingMaster45 made using a dildo and an electric screwdriver (a black and decker one I think? I wasn’t paying too much attention to the brand while it was around…). That thing is fucking fantastic.

I want to get a Hitachi Magic Wand with the g-spot attachment. I’m betting that might become my 2nd favorite. ;)

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

Here is an image I find very erotic. It involves another taboo subject- tentacle sex. But it’s still so very erotic because she’s all bound and unable to avoid being taken by the tentacles of whatever threatening beast not shown.

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

This one is a pretty common one, I'm sure, but the video strikes so many of my buttons, I couldn't help but include it.

Enigma: Principles of Lust

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

No scat and no children. Humiliation borders on it, except that there are times when I’m ok with it too.

Day 11: What are your views on the ethics of kink?

As long as both parties are ok with what’s going on and if something happens in the middle of a scene, that the other person makes sure the one that it happened to is taken care of, then everything is all well and good. What is s/s/c to one person may not be so to another. So if what I’m engaging in with another partner is good for both of us and neither side has issues, no one else had better step in and tell us it’s wrong. That shit will piss me off faster than a good many other things will.

Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.

I was on a wheel and my hands were tied but the person I was playing with forgot to tie up my ankles. Then he proceeded to take a violet wand to me. Normally this wouldn’t present a problem, except that he decided to tickle my feet. My reflexes kicked in and I kneed him in the head. I still laugh about that one even now, years later.

Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?

It’s freedom to me. It is who I am. Who I am to those in the vanilla world is also part of me, but for those people, I’m holding back. So to say that I’m drawn to it isn’t quite right. It is a need, almost like breathing. To be myself and be accepted for who I am. For WHAT I am. And that can only happen in certain situations.

Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?

Real life differs from fantasy in that it’s not impossible. Fantasy can be better in a way because you retain control over the whole scene. But for me, fantasy could never beat real life because you can’t feel a fantasy physically. (well you can but that gets into another subject very quickly) Over all- real life beats fantasy hands down.

Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.

I really want to have sex in a church.. and a graveyard. But that’s not really a BDSM activity, even though it is kinky. Hmm… I have been curious about takedown scenes but I don’t really think I have the guts for one of those. I’d give up too easily. Needle play? I am kind of curious about that. Kitten/puppy play… curious about that too. I know, this is more than one, but I won’t charge you for the extras. ;)